I have (2) written above because I take it that this post serves as life and living post (1) even without bearing that title.

I do not have my laptop with me. I blame that on my reluctance to blog. But that isn’t the only thing. If I’m being more accurate, it draws back to why I was discreet about my blog after I began blogging in 2014. I wanted to share freely yet I wanted freedom from the thought of having prying and doubtful eyes of people I’ve met in person speculating over every detail of my life. Maybe I’ve completely lost that now. Maybe.

Two weeks ago, I published a blog post on the topic “Debby is in Love“. Why did I do that? I needed to give that message some air – launch it from its bottled up space in my body system and out into the world. To achieve that, subtility would not do. So there, it found some expression.

I’m not ready to write introductory posts about Mr.Lover but I am ready to share snippets from my relationship experiences and learning every now and then. I would therefore make reference to Mister every once in a while when I need to. I hope this explanation has shed more light on that sudden blog post. If it hasn’t done so yet, you’ll just have to exercise plenty patience. But we will get to that introductory post later.

Feelings are fickle…

Every time I commence writing a life update post about a week prior to the intended date for publication, I end up not publishing the post. By the time publication date draws close, I’m thinking differently, I’m feeling differently and I cannot in good conscience publish otherwise.

Sue me but I’d let this be my first elucidation in reference to my Mister and misterial affairs (relationships). You shouldn’t get into a romantic relationship based on feelings only. It’s a recipe for disaster. You need convictions anchored on the word of God to you. Feelings are fickle.

Let’s move into some of those probably fickle but certainly recent thoughts and experiences:

Thinking: No matter how deep this post gets, I should start off by showing you my hair. My natural hair when it was newly made and not as it is now having experienced rocky night rests on the pillow.

Flat twist and loose twists.

Feeling: Somewhat dissatisfied with my blog. I have this personal desire to revamp it and give it more edge. Like I wrote above, feelings are fickle.

Discovering: more areas I personally need to improve upon.

Savouring: My love for flowers, fresh air and strolling. My friend, Sisi Gbems and I decided to pick up exercising. Rather than jog, I prefer to walk and just enjoy the fresh breeze. I did that a bit in university and I always plucked flowers as I walked by. I’d just throw this in because I can: On his last trip to see me, Mister bought me lovely flowers. Sorry, but no sorry.

My latest attempt at plucking what looked like a flower before the lockdown began. The picture symbolizes freshness to me. Freshness in a new city, freshness in a new experience altogether.

Reading: War Story by Steven Elliot, for a very long time for slightly over a month ago. The book is only 300 pages long but I think the storyline has lost its appeal to me. I promise to complete the book by my next blog post and notify you. So help me, God.

I have within the past month read and completed Martin Luther had a wife written by William J Peterson, Sanctified and Consecrated for ministry life by Zacharias Tanee Fomum, Little Fires Everywhere by Celeste Ng, while reading some chapters of other books. It’s quite interesting when I see certain readers complain of how the lockdown has ruined their reading habit. Ironic but relatable. More time = Less reading.

I have a review coming up of Little Fires Everywhere. The book’s major theme is one that always gets to me. Without shame, I say watch out for the review! shame, shame, shame.

Interested in: sharing on emotional manipulation. Manipulations: There’s much to be said on emotional manipulation but we must all ensure at the very least that we’re not the manipulators. You do not control anyone. You may have control over certain aspects of people’s lives but that is as far as it gets, you don’t have control over another human.

To discover whether you’re being emotionally manipulative, consider the way you speak to someone subject to you. Consider the atmosphere you create within which they have to live or work. An atmosphere that does nothing but control them to your own suiting is manipulation (regardless of how noble your intentions are). God infinite and almighty does not manipulate you. Brother, sister, do not manipulate another person.

Eating: Food. Obviously.

Ohhhhh I prepared fried rice for Easter. Lol. Six of us ate the food and the food left in the pot remained half of the original quantity. In other words, I think I prepared fried rice for twelve. I didn’t prepare it alone, it was concerted effort but if it had gone awry, I think I would’ve been to blame. It didn’t go awry, delicious actually (so delicious I forgot to take a picture of it) so then, I get some fried rice praise.

Being a lifestyle blogger involves taking pictures of everything you do. I don’t really do that for the blog. Its a good thing then that I like taking some pictures for memories sake and in the process they aid the blog.

Watching: More movies than usual. I’m amused. Mister encouraged me to watch The Chosen; it’s a series on Jesus Christ. I started just yesterday and it’s been engaging.

I’m also watching many sermons on YouTube.

I watched this video my mum sent me, a lovely evangelistic video on the platform of corona virus. It suits me to spread this kind of news on the corona virus.

Man infected with Covid-19 was dying then God sent a hospital cleaner.

What have you been listening to this period? What have you been watching? Its so beautiful that there’s plenty of time to break God’s word together now. I’ve been drawn to and I love some of the teachings by Pastor Sola Osunmakinde of Household of David church on YouTube recently.

Do you know that the believers meeting in the first century was a daily meeting – the constancy of it is a biblical pattern, a huge recipe for Christian growth. Key in to teachings and fellowship. Many other christian platforms have daily bible study plans. No excuses.

Its been said that if at this period, you do not do the things you always wanted to do, lack of time isn’t your problem, indiscipline is. No pressures, do it gradually. Add something of benefit daily. Pray for thirty minutes. Listen to one sermon daily. Share with one friend in a week. Grow and enjoy.

Tell me, how have you been?

With much love and dedication,



  1. funmiadebayojournals April 18, 2020 at 12:20 PM

    Thanks Debby. This is a very rich and inspiring writeup. Keep up the the good work?

    1. admin - Site Author April 18, 2020 at 12:22 PM

      Thanks soo much

  2. joystoriessite April 18, 2020 at 12:52 PM

    Love this post so much, It smells like rain wind – fresh air. Thank you for it.

    1. admin - Site Author April 18, 2020 at 3:21 PM

      Thank you too for following it and the kind words. ?

  3. Favour April 18, 2020 at 1:45 PM

    I loved the write-ups!

    1. Favour April 18, 2020 at 1:46 PM

      That was a mistake. I wanted to say I loved the write-up

      1. admin - Site Author April 18, 2020 at 3:19 PM

        Thank you Favour. I’m really glad you do. Have an amazing weekend

  4. Auntie Deola April 18, 2020 at 6:39 PM

    Hey!!! I enjoyed every bit of this post. God bless you.

    And yeah I like your hair; it’s so cute and African.

    My regards to Mister.

    1. admin - Site Author April 18, 2020 at 6:41 PM

      I’m glad you did. Thanks, I like my cute hair too. Lol

  5. Dor? April 18, 2020 at 7:07 PM

    Good one Debby! ??

    1. admin - Site Author April 18, 2020 at 7:11 PM

      Thank you!!

  6. Omotunde Masha April 18, 2020 at 7:26 PM

    This is so beautiful; you truly did well combining your headings and giving us a nice piece/ message…

    Ps: The sound of Mister bringing flowers ??

    1. admin - Site Author April 18, 2020 at 7:37 PM

      Thank you Omotunde. ?

  7. Omotunde Masha April 18, 2020 at 7:36 PM

    This is so beautiful; you truly did well combining your headings and giving us a nice piece/ message…

  8. Buks April 19, 2020 at 10:28 AM

    I’m encouraged to read some of the books you read recently.

    Solid and beautiful blog post! ?

    Thanks for always inspiring us in your unique way.

    1. admin - Site Author April 19, 2020 at 10:32 AM

      Thank you. I’m glad to know that.

  9. Adeyemi April 19, 2020 at 12:08 PM

    Good one, Dhebbie.

    1. admin - Site Author April 19, 2020 at 12:08 PM

      Thank you, Yemi

  10. Peace April 20, 2020 at 12:49 AM

    Thank you so much for sharing. The lockdown has been quite productive too. But there has been a lot of unproductive days too

    1. admin - Site Author April 20, 2020 at 8:41 PM

      Yeah I get that. Its sometimes like that. We work towards better

  11. Chidera Stephen April 20, 2020 at 8:26 PM

    holla, I live for food, fresh air and flowers too.

    Happy to hear about your new mister and your hair is beautiful. yes, I’m a natural hair advocAte.

    1. admin - Site Author April 20, 2020 at 8:38 PM

      Thank you. I just ran a visit to your blog too. Lovely. Thanks for commenting

  12. GIFT COLLINS May 2, 2020 at 10:56 PM

    Congratulations on find love! It’s a beautiful experience.

    I liked your post because of how relatable it is.

    I watched the Covid-19 video you sent and it’s a different take from what’s mostly around and I like.

    I haven’t heard of the film you mentioned but I’ll check it out and see if it’s something I like.


    1. admin - Site Author May 4, 2020 at 8:26 PM

      Hi Gift. Thank you for reading and your kind comments. I’m glad you enjoys the post. I hope you like “The chosen “

  13. Eromonsele Emmanuel May 2, 2020 at 11:00 PM

    I enjoyed every bit of this. Thanks for sharing and being so open.

    1. admin - Site Author May 4, 2020 at 8:27 PM

      Thank you too for reading and taking your time to comment

  14. Salmah May 3, 2020 at 12:41 AM

    Really enjoyed reading! Nice post Debby! Can’t wait to read more about the mister!!

    1. admin - Site Author May 4, 2020 at 8:28 PM

      Haha. I can’t wait either. Thanks for reading.

  15. Amaka June 14, 2020 at 5:15 AM

    Nice piece. Interesting to see you found love. We all need to experience true love in this life Lol.

    1. Deborah Adebayo - Site Author June 14, 2020 at 3:52 PM

      We all need love. Lol. Thank you


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