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Affirmations; in honour of the girl who believed in my lawyerly skills

I have noticed that there’s so much shaming, people-bashing or deliberate subbing and shading of our fellows. I say our fellows because there’s a bond there. You are forced to consider that they aren’t just ‘others’. They’re just like you. Sincerely.
Why the attitude?
I’m certain we’ve all heard it said once or twice that someone else’s candle being lit doesn’t stop yours from shining. You have to understand that.
Another psychological cause I can think of is this: maybe we all really feel slightly flawed, so when we see some other person being proven as a flawed individual, it assails our troubled minds. They say misery loves company, right? It probably makes you feel you’re not the blackest of the sheep. Perhaps human nature revels in that.
Or what exactly?
Whatever it is that it is the cause, I’m certain giving off an attitude isn’t the way forward. Are you familiar with the phrase ”pay it forward?”. Simply put, any good thing you do today to help others, indirectly has a way of helping you tomorrow. So, help someone.
How?
Try by being more conscious of those around you and offering something positive rather than offering nothing.
Examples:

  • Give them the opportunity to do things you never got the opportunty to do (this may be hard but you have to.)
  • Be totally honest with them both in praises and in criticism. I, for one, can always tell when a criticism is coming from the right place and it goes to show you believe in my capacity to do better.
  • Tell people when you think they’re doing something courageous or have something extraordinary.
  • Speak with(not at) peope. It gives people a sense of worthiness. In other words, let people’s opinions count with you. You’re not the boss of the world. Listen.
  • Appreciate the efforts of someone significantly younger than you or a child. You rarely know it, but it goes a long long way. It’s an “Endorsement from above” lol. Try it, you’ll see, there’s pleasure in strengthening the resolve of someone younger.
  • Show kindness to a stranger (someone who can’t repay you).

Affirm people during conversations ( it shows you value their personhood):

  1. Look at people during conversations, no matter how short the discussion is. I’m serious here. Look. Don’t be that insensitive person who is always doing something else when people are talking to them. If you have to do something simultaneously, apologize and explain your position.
  2. Another angle to the one above, is when you’re busy or talking to someone else, don’t act like you can’t hear your name being called by another person. Acknowledge the caller, then ask for a minute.

I think we can do beyond believeing in people, we can let them know we believe in them.
#youcanseatwithus not #youcantseatwithus. Not squad squad all the time. Others that aren’t your friends are great too.
And with your friends? Don’t be selfish too. Their success shouldn’t threaten yours.
Why do I really believe in this?
Last week, I found this piece I once wrote in my journal:
”…When I got admission to study law in the first and the best university, my friend sent exactly this to me:

” DEBORAH I think I should congratulate you again on your admission. I believe you are going to be a great lawyer…nothing else suits you more…and I’m damn serious…be a good girl in school. Go out there and illuminate your world. Never stop being a Jesus fan”

Till date she has no idea how much those words meant to me, coming from another aspiring lawyer. “Nothing else suits you more.”.
Shout out to Desola Ibukunoluwa Olosunde. This blog post is dedicated to you.
I hope you get to affirm one person today or tomorrow and then all the days of your life! Its really what God does all through the bible if you observe.

An anxious heart weighs a man down but a kind word cheers him up

Peace and Afirmations,
Debby

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Re: 2018 in Books.

I thought it only relevant to remind us of this post from the beggining of the year. how far with our goals?not too late to make determined effort for the second half of the year, yes?
Happy new month. How was January? This post has to with the new year 2018, I know this isn’t January anymore but I think February works just fine.
Now, I want you to note this excerpt, I’ll explain it at the end, so read through:

The average attention span for the notoriously ill-focused goldfish is nine seconds, but according to a new study from Microsoft Corp., people now generally lose concentration after eight seconds, highlighting the affects of an increasingly digitalized lifestyle on the brain.

When this blog post idea came to me, I discarded it. I know books lovers; dedicated bibliophiles who are better suited to write posts like this. Sometimes, I don’t even read.
In a moment of eureka though, I decided to go ahead with writing this because some of my blog readers do not know these bibliophiles that I know but they do know me and what I have to write is valid.

This purpose of this post isn’t to tell you how many books you should aim to read this year, I didn’t even keep tabs on my 2017 books. I sometimes wish I did. This brings me to the first thing I think you should note:

  • Keep tabs on the books you read. You should probably write them down in a certain notebook. I know someone who makes a thread out of it on her Twitter account and pins it. Doing this will help you with a mental review when you want to recall all you’ve learnt through books at the close of the year.
  • Aim at new genres. Its good you read the kind of books you read. Its true you’re faster when you’re reading them. However, reading other genres has the effect of broadening your world view and will even help you form a solid opinion on why you still dislike that genre or why you now favour it.

  • This is not a competition. Don’t stress yourself. The aim of reading is to be a better person. Knowledge is power. Some aim at a chapter a day, some twenty minutes a day. If you choose to publish the number of books you’ve read, good for you. If you choose not to, good for you. Just don’t fuss about the number. Savour each book. Reading hurriedly just to get a medal among your friends takes too much energy. It even shows the books you’re reading are yet to make you rational in that regard.
  • Review/ Hold a book discussion. This is to be done after each book. You can have a literary journal for this purpose. After each book, write down what you think, what idea you disagree with, if you will love to read other books by that author. The alternative thing is to discuss the book with someone who has read it too. It helps you have coherent thoughts about the book, to maximize it.
  • Buy and read. What you invest in, you treasure. The reason you’re still having oil drip on other people’s books is that you’ve not spent well enough on your own books. Also, Read. don’t boast of the number of books you have if you won’t open them. That’s not to say you can’t buy books in advance. By all means, please do. Just make sure you’re making progress.

  • Last of all, for this purpose, the internet is going to have to be your enemy. Seriously. Social media auto-check gives way for a page or two of a book. It’ll help if you always have a small book in your bag to read while waiting at any point. Cheat on your phone; read a book.

    I really do hope that at the end of this year, rather than having more whatsapp chat partners, you would’ve learnt new words from books at the very least. ?

    Yes, the attention span issue. This is the widely held belief like I stated above:

    The average attention span for the notoriously ill-focused goldfish is nine seconds, but according to a new study from Microsoft Corp., people now generally lose concentration after eight seconds, highlighting the affects of an increasingly digitalized lifestyle on the brain.

    That’s why you have to be intentional about the fact that you want to read a book and complete it (Completing it. Very essential. ?). There is a divergent view to this attention span theory on BBC.com. read up here if you’re interested in truly working on this issue. Happy New month to you!
    Books, knowledge, power,
    Debby.
    What’s your philosophy on reading? Do you write down the number of books you read? Ever held a book discussion? What are your 2018 book goals?

    Life Diary The Christian Faith 8 Comments

    Beating Addictions; How to get out of despondency.

    1. The loss of hope or confidence;despair or dejection.
    2. A feeling of depression ordisheartenment.



    In this Christian race, how can we help each other? Scripture says to encourage one another while it is called today.
    I genuinely want to help.
    Addictions make you sink yet it’s cuts across almost everybody in one area or the other. Who would’ve thought self control to be a life saver? But it is.
    That’s because it’s a fruit of the spirit. Galatians 5:22.

    But the spirit produces Love, Joy, Peace, Patience, Kindness, Goodness, faithfulness, Humility, and Self-Control. There is no law against things such as these.

    When you’re unable to apply self-control to that thing you do, you get addicted. Even to the littlest of things.
    Addictions are almost always crippling and that’s because day 1, you make up your mind to beat/stop it but it doesn’t work. Day 2, you have a firmer resolve but in spite of it, you fall, even harder. Day 3, ahem. Day 4, why?! By day 5, the depression sets in.
    If with all that effort, it doesn’t go away, what can deliver you? And you ask this not as one who’s never experienced the tremendous power of God. You have. That’s why you called on him for this addiction but no result.
    You’re choking on the addiction. You’re losing your sense of what is right and wrong. You may randomly even wonder if the Christian life is for you or for some other fire guys. The walls are fast closing in.
    When I despaired once, the scripture I kept replaying in my mind was :
    Psalm 34: 6 (English Standard Version)

    This poor man cried, and the LORD heard him and saved him out of all his troubles

    I just knew- I just did, – that if I cried, he would hear me because its written in the scriptures. That was it. It was written, so I believed. It was my only hope.
    So what do you often do when you despair?
    Let your heart cry out to him and hold on to that rope of hope. Just hold on. Hold.
    Ecclesiastes 9: 4 (New Living Translation)

    There is hope only for the living. As they say, “It’s better to be a live dog than a dead lion!”

    See? God’s word is the hope we have to find hope in the worst of times.
    Sometimes its an eclipse; that’s why its all dark. His word says joy comes in the morning. It will surely come. Has his word said it? That’s all. Confess the word of God that you’ve read. Reach out to a friend to pray with/for you. Just open your mouth and speak to God about how awful everything is.
    It will rain.You can be certain of that. And you would be stronger for it when you rise. Your faith would’ve built up some muscles.
    Let your heart reach out to him. Hold on to your hope.
    Ps 36: 4(New Living Translation)

    In my desperation I prayed, and the LORD listened; he saved me from all my troubles.

    And my e-mail address is always open for discussions.

    What has been your story on losing or finding hope? Struggling with addictions?
    Hope and Light,
    Debby.

    Book Reviews

    BOOK REVIEW –Ghana Must Go

    Author: Taiye selasi
    Title: Ghana must go
    Pages: 285 (my copy)
    Publisher/Publication date: Penguin Group Publishers / 2013
    ISBN: 978-1-101-60577-6

    Review
    As depicted by the title, you can call the book a metaphor for the relationship between Ghanians and Nigerians and a witty reference to the mass deportation of two million Ghanians from Nigeria in 1983.
    The genre is contemporary adult fiction.
    The book was written in quite a perspective.
    I can absolutely follow the author’s thesis. Before I go on, I’ll really love to write something on my mind: I’ve constantly wondered what you would pin the center of this book to be. As Chinua Achebe said, “when the center does not hold, things fall apart.”. What is the center that refused to hold here because things fell apart? Is it the fact that Kweku was painfully conscious of society’s expectations of him, or it’s the decay in the system at large, and in this case, the subset of the societal decay being the medical system? (if you’ve read the book, I’d appreciate your opinion on this in the comment section).
    I like this book. It teaches on something core; valuing family. I must warn you though, the book is slightly incomprehensible if you’re not very determined to comprehend it. After a few chapters of determined reading, it gets smooth. It helped that I had read the various debates between lovers of this book and it’s haters(It’s essentially that way, you’re rarely ever passive about this book. You love or hate it – a lot), and so I was prepared to weather the first few uninviting chapters.
    It’s only initially difficult to comprehend because the author didn’t write it in a conventional manner but as someone put it, in a mathematical and poetic manner all at once.
    Reading this book, my personal experience was one of questioning imbalanced systems. Its so awful how that one person’s selfish ambition can trigger a few events to scatter a family. Selfishness is deadly. Your selfishness at your place of work can ruin your workmate’s family. Enough said.
    I’ve never read some other book by Taiye selasi. This is in fact, her debut.
    The story is based on the death of Kweku Sai, father of a Ghanaian family which started out in the U.S. Pressure comes in and the family gets disintegrated. Upon Kweku’s death, the family reunites, however begrudgingly, and that is the start of the family’s redemption.
    The characters are all credible and developed. We get certain chapters from the P.O.V of the family members. In the coming together of this family, they find there is unity and strength. They’re each other’s support system. And once again, they laugh, they truly laugh and wash off anger and depression.
    There’s Olu the first son, walking in the steps of his father as a medical doctor and now specially married to Ling; there’s also the twins, Taiye and Kehinde; and the baby, Sadie. Of the twins, Kehinde is the male and he’s a popular artist who’s suffered from severe bouts of depression. Taiye, the lady, still has bitterness lodged in her heart from the days when her mother sent her to Nigeria.
    Taiye Selasi invests into each character and I appreciate that.
    I think this book is a good satire, perhaps without even intending to be. It critiques the society in Houston, in Ghana and in Nigeria.
    It touches largely on the issue of identity. Kweku is Ghanaian and Folashade, Nigerian. How they find themselves in the U.S in the first place and how all three countries have worked out for them is explored.
    In an interview I watched of the author some two years ago, certainly before I read the book, she admitted to writing the book in the hopes that the issue of identity gets considered as a serious one. A twin herself and mixed-blood, she writes from a place of experience.
    I cannot tell you that the characters aren’t flawed, they are very flawed. Some childhood trauma affects all of them; parent and children alike.
    I dislike the fact that I find it really hard to pick a favourite character.
    I think its an interesting family drama that doesn’t read like one.
    I recommend it to literature enthusiasts. I also rate it 4 out of 5 stars. Weldone Taiye selasi. She’s an author whose books I’ll look out for in the future.
    P.S: guys, I bookmarked pages for excerpts but you have to believe me when I say I can’t quote any. If i attempt it, I’ll have to quote the whole book; so lyrical and poetically intelligent.
    No excerpts, sorry.
    So tell me, was I able to sell this one to you? Or you’re convinced it’s not your type of book?
    And if you’ve read the book, you know it, let’s gist!

    Interviews 6 Comments

    Ladies and Football; 6 guys give their opinions.

    Hiii people. To wrap up this Ladies and football series is another dimension.
    You know why I’m interested in these opinions? I think it’s might just be pure stereotype. Is there really a sport meant for only one sex?
    That most people of a certain sex aren’t involved or interested in that sport, shouldn’t grant a monopoly of it to the other sex or should it? (Do answer in the comment section).
    The dimension: I asked a number of guys their opinion on this question:

    “Do you mind marrying a lady who not only loves football, but also plays football?
    Do you think its cool?
    What has been your experience with ladies who (1), love and (2),play football?”

    These are the answers I got:
    Dipo
    I don’t mind marrying a lady who loves and plays football.
    Yeah, I think it’s cool.
    My simple experience in relating with such ladies most times is that we communicate and relate better.
    David
    For me, football is a huge part of my world. therefore having a lady who also loves football is a bonus, especially if we both support the same club. we’ll get to share our victories and console each other when the team loses.
    As regards the playing of football, I’m comfortable with marrying a lady who plays football as a hobby, but not a professional footballer.
    About personal experiences, I have a preference for ladies with football knowledge as it’s common ground to relate with them, though friendship with Arsenal supporters is tricky, as they’re almost always on a down mood.
    Jonah
    Ahh…
    I don’t mind marrying a lady who loves and play football…( Unless if the playing is too much like three times a week).
    Yes, it’s cool to marry a wife you can once in a while play football with.
    My experiences
    1. Those who love it are nice and love to share their ideas, but they usually cry when their team loses spoiling your mood too.
    2. Those who play are usually tough and hard to deal with.
    Yemi
    Hmmm. The first question ehn. I think I won’t mind marrying a lady that loves watching football because I love that too. But playing football, I actually think it will be difficult or rather rare to see a lady at her mid 20s involved in playing football.
    Now, I don’t have experience with ladies who play football, but I do with ladies that watch .
    It’s been really cool discussing football with them, but the fact is that you have to educate them on some *known* stuffs in football. They don’t know some intricacies in football, so most times, guys have to tell them about those stuffs which ordinarily are common knowledge to football freaks.
    Bayo
    I definitely don’t mind marrying a lady who loves or even plays football.
    I think it is cool. I have female friends who enjoy talking about football and I must say it is usually exciting, different from when you are talking to the guys.
    Wole
    Are u kidding me, a lady who not only loves but also plays football is an angel ?.
    Of course, I definitely wouldn’t mind marrying her.
    It’s supercool.
    My experience with ladies who love/play football is that they do tend to be kinda manly, not physically, I mean character-wise.
    Which is not so cool but then you can’t have everything right.

    Different opinions. ? There’s however however a consensus that it’s cool when a lady loves football, the degree of that love for footbsll being a different thing for each person.

    You know, it’s uncalled for seggregating sports. My opinion is that naturally, most ladies would not gravitate towards playing football and that’s O.K. Whatever you want.
    However for you as a future primary or secondary school proprietor/propreitress to take an outright stance on the seggragation is to brainwash young minds. Same holds as a future parent.
    Or like Simi’s story, to even call a lady that likes football a lesbian. I’m tired.
    In the same vein, this that I saw on twitter:

    Let’s do better for the next generation. Or what do you think?
    If you’re going to live wholly, you can’t be crippled by unfounded societal expectations.
    Question to all: what sport have you always considered a female sport?
    And if a guy doesn’t fancy football, so be it.
    As always,
    Debby.

    Interviews 1 Comment

    Ladies and Football; Analyzing the big deal (3)

    While in secondary school, I had two close female friends who loved football and discussed it every chance they got.
    I never knew a football match was scheduled to happen that day until they were discussing. Oh, well. It never did hurt me, so cool.
    Except that my new roommate in a space of two weeks after meeting her asked asked me twice if I liked football. So the mind wheels got rolling on how and why women develop a liking for football. That is what this series is about + critiquing societal expectations.

    Right now, I can name only a few football teams: Chelsea, Arsenal, Man U, Liverpool, Barcelona. Boy, am I brilliant or what?

    I’m granting some female friends short interviews on this subject. I can’t fit them all into one post so its going to come in form of a series.
    Happy reading.
    The third in the series is here.

    Odi
    Odi is the reputable roommate who got this series started

    1. When did you have your first football consciousness? Did you love it immediately?
    I had my first football consciousness when I was 6 years while viewing the 2006 FIFA World Cup with my dad, uncles and my brother and I must say it was fascinating and I did love it immediately
    2. Do you think having brothers or a father who loves football impacted your fancy?
    I just personally seemed to love football and everything about it early on.
    Having a brother made my interest in it grow as he made me play with him almost everyday during our childhood years because he usually had no one to play with. He happens to be the only male in four (4)children and the rest were not interested. We’d play different sports but majorly football. We even made it fun by holding tournaments and awarding each other medals.
    3. How do you describe the reaction from both sexes when people discover you love football?
    When I say I love football, the question that follows is “are you a tom boy? ” some even go as far as questioning me about my interest and football history so that they are able to ascertain if I’m joking or not. That is on a broad level though.
    But individually, the girls are basically weirded out by it, some even disgusted, I remember the recent argument I had with some people and the reactions I got.
    For the guys, it’s just expressions of shock that later turn to approving comments. Before now, I used to go to the male hostels just to watch a match I’m interested in. That is how much I appreciate the sport
    4. I only watch it? Or I watch and play?
    About four (4) years ago, the answer to both questions would have been affirmative but as of now I only watch and don’t play due to some circumstances. I have won various medals ranging from “man of the match” to even “the glove”. The most memorable moment for me was leading my house to clinche the gold medal during an interhouse sports event.
    I play as a center forward which greats like Lionel Messi, Harry Kane, Romelu Lukaku also play. I hope to get back to it real soon.
    5. On a wild trip(thought), do you mind marrying a guy who has no interest in football? Do you think it weird?
    For me, I would marry a man that doesn’t watch football as long as he doesn’t despise it or even interferes with me watching it. Who knows, he might actually love it along the line.
    Bonus question: what’s your football team?
    I’m a Manchester United man for life.

    I think I’ve mostly satisfied my curiosity with this third one. Wednesdays post is a twist to the concept.
    I hope you enjoyed reading this. Don’t forget to comment, and share with others.
    As always,
    Debby.

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    Ladies and football; Analyzing the big deal (2)

    While in secondary school, I had two close female friends who loved football and discussed it every chance they got.
    I never knew a football match was scheduled to happen that day until they were discussing. Oh, well. It never did hurt me, so cool.
    Except that my new roommate in a space of two weeks after meeting her asked asked me twice if I liked football. So the mind wheels got rolling on how and why women develop a liking for football. That is what this series is about + critiquing societal expectations.

    Right now, I can name only a few football teams: Chelsea, Arsenal, Man U, Liverpool, Barcelona. Boy, am I brilliant or what?

    I’m granting some female friends short interviews on this subject. I can’t fit them all into one post so its going to come in form of a series.
    Happy reading.
    The second in the series is here.

    Ife
    Ife is the second of those friends from secondary school. Ife is one person I think would never get bored of watching football even as a grandmother.
    She answers…


    1. When did you have your first football consciousness? Did you love it immediately?


    Well I had it in Jss1. I think the match I fully remember at first was against Barcelona for champions league final. I went to watch with my dad and my brother at Kwara hotel that day because there was no light at home. Well as you may guess, we lost. I was very pissed that day because we deserved that match and the winning goal was pure ojoro…but you know things just didn’t work our way. Yeah, I think that was my first footbal consciousness, and to answer you next aspect, yes, it was very exciting because we were voicing different opinions to the players eventhough they couldn’t hear us. lol.
    2. Do you think having brothers or a father who loves football impacted your fancy?
    Yes ooooo….it definetly did, because we were always discusing every pass, drible, foul, penalty kick, corner free kicks and so on. Every messed up game a player was playing and every attempt at a goal too, if it was a good shot…we would all yell and if it was a bad one, we would shout at the player.?

    3. How do you describe the reaction from both sexes when people discover you love football?
    Its always a surprised look I get and an exciting smirk. The last champions league final that they played, when I was entering the viewing center gate.. those there were all looking at me like ???? what is this girl looking for here? The guy who was beside me was just staring at me whenever I made some comments or I shouted at a player, he was like “…wow”. He said it always excites him when he meets a girl that loves ball.
    Well, some girls get picked up from there? and the rest is history.

    4. I only watch it? Or I watch and play?

    I only watch now. I stopped playing when I was in primary 5. We were playing football in the quadrangle of the school. The ball went out for a throw in, the ball got to my feet and I played a shot. It hit the daughter of a teacher straight on the head and she fainted. I was terrified that day because I knew I was in trouble. She went to report me and I was scolded. I told myself that I won’t ever play again.
    5. On a wild trip, do you mind marrying a guy who has no interest in football? Do you think it weird?
    Ohhh hell no! What’s the fun in that? Imagine on a saturday as a woman, you sit down, tune the channel to a football station and your husband is like what are you doing? He wants to watch something else…as a football lover, certainly you would be pissed.
    So to avoid all that drama…..don’t get involved with a guy who doesn’t love one of the things you’re passionate about because it can cause wahala!
    Bonus Question: What’s your football team?
    I was born into an Arsenal loving family, so I automatically bcame an Arsenal fan…but I still love some other clubs like Real madrid, Barcelona, Bayern munich, Psg . I just dabble around some English clubs if they play well. over all, I’m an Arsenal fan to the core!

    Aww, the primary 5 incidence.
    Did you guys also notice Ife has turned to a marriage counsellor over football? She says to avoid wahala. ?

    You guys know the drill.
    Tell me, what do you think? Ladies, do you fancy football or you have teams just for the sake of being able to make contributions?
    Guys, are you indifferent to football? Or you’re saying “please please please!, what’s the meaning of indifference?“
    Final instalment in the series comes up on Saturday then something exciting the following Wednesday!
    So if you aren’t already, subscribe by email below so you’re always notified of new posts.

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    Ladies and football; Analyzing the big deal. (1)

    While in secondary school, I had two close female friends who loved football and discussed it every chance they got.
    I never knew a football match was scheduled to happen that day until they were discussing. Oh, well. It never did hurt me, so cool.
    Except that my new roommate in a space of two weeks after meeting her asked asked me twice if I liked football. So the mind wheels got rolling on how and why women develop a liking for football. That is what this series is about + critiquing societal expectations.

    Right now, I can name only a few football teams: Chelsea, Arsenal, Man U, Liverpool, Barcelona. Boy, am I brilliant or what?

    I’m granting some female friends short interviews on this subject. I can’t fit them all into one post so its going to come in form of a series.
    Happy reading.

    Simi
    Simi is one of those friends from secondary school that I referred to earlier. Till date, her whatsapp status is filled with football discussions. I just don’t get it. She answers…


    1. When did you have your first football consciousness? Did you love it immediately?
    I guess I had my first football consciousness when I started playing with my brothers since that was the only fun thing I could do with them other than from watching movies. And yes, I loved it immediately.

    2. Do you think having brothers or a father who loves football impacted your fancy?

    Yes, I think they influenced my love for football in a way because we watch it together and we even play together.
    Infact I remember vividly during the worldcup in brazil that should be 2010 or 2014 my dad used to ask me to wake him up whenever Nigeria was playing if it happened to be fixed at midnight. Sometimes if he was the one awake he would come to my room to wake me whenever the match was about to start. At first my dad didn’t like the idea of me playing but he eventually left me when he saw how much I loved playing football.

    3. How do you describe the reaction from both sexes when people discover you love football?
    I have found out that only females with the common love for football don’t find it surprising when I say I play football. But guys?? I have had different funny reactions. I have got reactions like “what is a beautiful girl like you doing here?“, “I can’t believe you till i watch you play”. Someone even accused me of being a lesbian.
    Infact the funniest was when I collected the award for the sportswoman of the year in my department; when the Mc called me to come forward for the award he was like “Please, what sport?” and when I told him football he didn’t believe me. He said I don’t look like I can play. The sport either has to be table tennis or volleyball or better still, I bought the award!”.
    4. I only watch it? Or I watch and play?
    I watch and play.

    5. On a wild trip, do you mind marrying a guy who has no interest in football? Do you think it weird?
    I don’t think I can marry someone who doesn’t love football because there will be no one to discuss or watch football with. So yes, it will be wierd. Infact if I am attracted to a guy once I discover he doesn’t like me playing football or he don’t even like football at all I loose interest immediately.
    Bonus question: what’s your football team?
    Football team; Chelsea and Real Madrid.

    And that’s that! When I was reading it, I was thinking ‘just take me to that MC, let me see what he looks like’. What did he mean by ‘or you bought the award’!? Hian.
    P.s: I might be football conscious o. I know there was a Karius or Kairus crisis recently. ?

    So tell me people, what do you think? Ladies, do you fancy football or you have teams just for the sake of being able to make contributions?
    Guys, are you indifferent to football? Or you’re saying “please please please!, what’s the meaning of indifference?“
    What else struck you in Simi’s conversation? (Don’t even get me started on the lesbian assumption!)

    Educative

    Privileged generation

    Hiii guys. I penned this down on 26th of March 2018.
    18:03.
    I hope you learn a thing or two.

    Those you flock around determine who you will turn out to be in a few years.
    First point I want to discuss is that we’re a privileged generation. Ife Grace-Dada wrote something once and I agree with her(check out her blog and fb page, she’s a committed Christian writer). Paraphrase: Ask most young christians and you would see that their best ministers are mostly those whose churches they’ve never stepped foot into.
    Following this premise, it applies to most areas of life, that the people who inspire you may be those you’ve never had to meet in person yet in a certain aspect you consider them lit!
    Some parents and grand-parents may never understand this. ? and some do.
    Sometimes you follow such people on social media and imitate them as they imitate Christ, or learn a thing or two about decent human behaviour.
    Personally, I have someone who inspires me with her simplicity, decent fashion, and her knowledge of God’s word.
    There’s someone else whose confidence and openness in sharing her love for God, inspires me.
    I think it helps when you don’t just wildly envision who you want to be in a few years time, but when you consciously take steps that propel you in that direction. You surround yourselves with people of that sort. Association works.
    Before long, even if you didn’t grow up in a home that projected that virtue, you’re conscious that your dressing should be neat, smart and project Christ; not done haphazardly. You become conscious of other people’s feelings, you empathise. You learn some biblical truth you previously didn’t know.
    What am I really advocating for with this post?
    Reach beyond your immediate world. Don’t just chat away your internet time; you can know more about gardening through your instagram friend living someplace other than where you are, you can understand the arguments for home-schooling through twitter, you can access in-depth bible exposition through facebook, or you can learn about the precision and neatness of the Swiss through reading. You can be an all-rounder.
    Janice James said:

    ‘‘I’ve travelled the world twice over,
    Met the famous saints and sinners,
    Poets and artists, king and queens,
    Old stars and hopeful beginners,
    I’ve been where no-one’s been before, learned secrets from writers and cooks
    All with one library ticket
    To the wonderful world of books”

    You have no excuse for not knowing beyond what’s in your immediate surroundings. So many instruments at your disposal.
    Remember: privileged generation.
    p.s: I hope no one is saying why should I bother knowing about home-schooling and gardening? Okay o. Okay.

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    My Parable of the parable.

    Guys, read this:
    Luke 15: 8-10

    “Or what woman, having ten [silver] drachmas [each one equal to a day’s wages], if she loses one coin, does not light a lamp and sweep the house and look carefully and diligently until she finds it?
    9And when she has found it, she summons her [women] friends and neighbors, saying, Rejoice with me, for I have found the silver coin which I had lost.
    10Even so, I tell you, there is joy among and in the presence of the angels of God over one [[e]especially] wicked person who repents ([f]changes his mind for the better, heartily amending his ways, with abhorrence of his past sins).

    I now understand the parable of the lost coin better. I’ll explain.

    Two weeks ago I wrote something important in this big notebook in the picture. A week later, I needed to use the information. I couldn’t find the book. I was surprised. I wasn’t careless with it at all. I was even sure it never left my room. Still, I didn’t locate the book. Life went on without that information.
    .
    Early this morning, while preparing to go with a group of people for a conference, I began to search for “the parable of the dollars” in that picture. I bought this book three weeks ago. I read the preface and was happy it’s a loaded book. I hoped to read it later. Today would’ve been the ‘later’. I’d just read it when I’m less busy during my outing.
    .
    However I couldn’t find the book. A complete mystery. I searched my book pile over and over again. It was obviously not there but my eyes would not receive that report. My eyes kept going over each of the books. It troubled me a lot. I can’t lose my books. I didn’t give it to anyone. Where is my new book?
    .
    I recieved a call that the group I was to go with was ready. I left unsatisfied and the first thing I told my friend when I saw her was “I can’t find my book”. That was my preoccupation for a long time. My missing book.
    Tonight, I searched again. Still missing from my book pile. Then I got on all fours and pulled out a drawer of another completely different set of books.
    Finally, both of these books were buried under those books.
    .
    I rejoiced. The first thing I did was take a picture and type to the same friend on whatsapp “I’ve found my books”.
    Then I understood.
    If scripture says the woman lit up a lamp, took a broom and swept everywhere carefully and diligently until she found the lost coin, then it must be true.
    She didn’t think “I have other coins“. I also didn’t think “I have other books”. I didn’t say this book is worth just a little amount and I’ll replace it. I did everything for it.
    One book but every one book matters to me.
    One soul but every one soul matters to God. When I found it, I, immediately in a spirit of merriment, took a picture and sent it to my friend. I was in essence saying come and rejoice with me. Again, I’m telling you all, come and rejoice with me. I’ve found my missing book that matters to me. I’m serious.
    But beyond that, does the whole of heaven really do what I did? Does the host of heaven go down all all fours, digging and digging and digging for one soul? Searching for “just” one sinner?
    Did they do that for me? Are they doing that for you or for that person you love?
    Wow.
    Wow.

    And what’s up with this rhyme, people? The book is “the parable of dollars”, in reference to the story of the parable of talents in the bible.
    The story I quoted in the post above is the parable of the lost coin. My own experience is the parable of the lost book. ?
    Please rejoice with me. And forever remember how interested heaven is in you and yours. Just remember all fours!