Date Archives April 2020

BOOK REVIEW; Little Fires Everywhere

Title: Little Fires Everywhere

Author: Celeste Ng

Publisher: Penguin Press (2017)

Pages: 237 (my copy)

Celeste Ng compels readers to trace blurred lines of morality.
To trace the dynamics of good intentions and bad choices.
To analyze harrowing motherhood. That’s what Celeste Ng does.

Little Fires Everywhere reveals the clarity and disruption Mia and Pearl Warren bring with them in a fifteen year old VW Rabbit car to Shakers Height, Ohio in 1996/1997.

“She looked at him fiercely, almost a glare. Moody saw that her eyes which he thought were hazel, were a deep jade green. And that moment, Moody had a sudden clear understanding of what had already happened that morning: his life has been divided into a before and an after, and he would always be comparing the two.”

Pearl Warren will do that to all four of the Warren children in her quiet and brilliant way. All will find their lives in intertwined threads that never get untangled.


Without glaringly being a Young Adults fiction, Little Fires Everywhere builds up primarily around the lives of five teenagers, and that of their parents. It has a subplot of a court case with the end point of gaining custody of baby May Ling/Mirabelle.

This will be the opening to the questions:
Who is a mother? What makes a woman a mother? Biology? Or love?


Little fires everywhere will answer questions such as:
Will a two year old child betray a loving mother for a biological mother?
Will a teenager betray the well organized and suburban mother for the enigmatic and unpredictable mother? Or will it be vice versa?

Will a woman decide she is a mother against the contracts she had signed otherwise?

Will another woman decide she isn’t a mother based on the time the child arrives?


What I liked

The theme of motherhood is explored magnanimously.

What I didn’t like

The book has a slow pace.

 

Written in third person point of view, a reader is exposed to why each character does the things they do.

The book also explores the privilege of wealth and opportunities.

They dazzled her, this Richardsons: with their easy confidence, their clear sense of purpose no matter what time of the day


You should consider taking portraits professionally” Mrs Richardson suggested. She paused, “Not that you aren’t a photographer professionally of course. But in a studio maybe, Or for weddings and engagements. You’d be highly sought after“. She waved her hands at the photographs on the wall as if they could articulate what she meant. “In fact, perhaps you could take portraits of our family. We’d pay of course”
Perhaps“, Mia said ” But the thing about portraits is that you need to show people the way they want to be seen. I prefer to show people as I see them. So in the end, I’d probably just frustrate us both” She smiled placidly, and Mrs Richardson fumbled for a response.

 

“Everyday it appeared, Pearl absorbed something new from the Richardson family, a turn of phrase (I was literally dying), a gesture (a flick of the hair, a roll of the eye). She was a teen, Mia told herself over and over; she was trying on new skin as all teenagers did but privately she stayed wary of every change she saw”

 

They have secrets. They have diverse personality traits. And we, have one haunting yet relieving story.

The writing style is simple and in fact very straight forward for a novice reader. The characters are credible.

Immediately after reading it, I rated it 4/5 stars. On reflecting, maybe 3.75/5 stars or the average of both.

There’s an adaptation of the book into a television miniseries which I saw on DSTV. With the licence movie producers have, the series is a berth away from the novel. Both do good though, so you could as well watch it.

I particularly think Young Adult fiction readers, mothers and intending mothers will find this book enjoyable.

Have you read this one? Do you think you are interested? Let me know below.

*I did not complete War Story as promised in my last post. I’ll get there.

Love and light,

Debby.

Life and Living in 2020 (2)

I have (2) written above because I take it that this post serves as life and living post (1) even without bearing that title.

I do not have my laptop with me. I blame that on my reluctance to blog. But that isn’t the only thing. If I’m being more accurate, it draws back to why I was discreet about my blog after I began blogging in 2014. I wanted to share freely yet I wanted freedom from the thought of having prying and doubtful eyes of people I’ve met in person speculating over every detail of my life. Maybe I’ve completely lost that now. Maybe.

Two weeks ago, I published a blog post on the topic “Debby is in Love“. Why did I do that? I needed to give that message some air – launch it from its bottled up space in my body system and out into the world. To achieve that, subtility would not do. So there, it found some expression.

I’m not ready to write introductory posts about Mr.Lover but I am ready to share snippets from my relationship experiences and learning every now and then. I would therefore make reference to Mister every once in a while when I need to. I hope this explanation has shed more light on that sudden blog post. If it hasn’t done so yet, you’ll just have to exercise plenty patience. But we will get to that introductory post later.

Feelings are fickle…

Every time I commence writing a life update post about a week prior to the intended date for publication, I end up not publishing the post. By the time publication date draws close, I’m thinking differently, I’m feeling differently and I cannot in good conscience publish otherwise.

Sue me but I’d let this be my first elucidation in reference to my Mister and misterial affairs (relationships). You shouldn’t get into a romantic relationship based on feelings only. It’s a recipe for disaster. You need convictions anchored on the word of God to you. Feelings are fickle.

Let’s move into some of those probably fickle but certainly recent thoughts and experiences:

Thinking: No matter how deep this post gets, I should start off by showing you my hair. My natural hair when it was newly made and not as it is now having experienced rocky night rests on the pillow.

Flat twist and loose twists.

Feeling: Somewhat dissatisfied with my blog. I have this personal desire to revamp it and give it more edge. Like I wrote above, feelings are fickle.

Discovering: more areas I personally need to improve upon.

Savouring: My love for flowers, fresh air and strolling. My friend, Sisi Gbems and I decided to pick up exercising. Rather than jog, I prefer to walk and just enjoy the fresh breeze. I did that a bit in university and I always plucked flowers as I walked by. I’d just throw this in because I can: On his last trip to see me, Mister bought me lovely flowers. Sorry, but no sorry.

My latest attempt at plucking what looked like a flower before the lockdown began. The picture symbolizes freshness to me. Freshness in a new city, freshness in a new experience altogether.

Reading: War Story by Steven Elliot, for a very long time for slightly over a month ago. The book is only 300 pages long but I think the storyline has lost its appeal to me. I promise to complete the book by my next blog post and notify you. So help me, God.

I have within the past month read and completed Martin Luther had a wife written by William J Peterson, Sanctified and Consecrated for ministry life by Zacharias Tanee Fomum, Little Fires Everywhere by Celeste Ng, while reading some chapters of other books. It’s quite interesting when I see certain readers complain of how the lockdown has ruined their reading habit. Ironic but relatable. More time = Less reading.

I have a review coming up of Little Fires Everywhere. The book’s major theme is one that always gets to me. Without shame, I say watch out for the review! shame, shame, shame.

Interested in: sharing on emotional manipulation. Manipulations: There’s much to be said on emotional manipulation but we must all ensure at the very least that we’re not the manipulators. You do not control anyone. You may have control over certain aspects of people’s lives but that is as far as it gets, you don’t have control over another human.

To discover whether you’re being emotionally manipulative, consider the way you speak to someone subject to you. Consider the atmosphere you create within which they have to live or work. An atmosphere that does nothing but control them to your own suiting is manipulation (regardless of how noble your intentions are). God infinite and almighty does not manipulate you. Brother, sister, do not manipulate another person.

Eating: Food. Obviously.

Ohhhhh I prepared fried rice for Easter. Lol. Six of us ate the food and the food left in the pot remained half of the original quantity. In other words, I think I prepared fried rice for twelve. I didn’t prepare it alone, it was concerted effort but if it had gone awry, I think I would’ve been to blame. It didn’t go awry, delicious actually (so delicious I forgot to take a picture of it) so then, I get some fried rice praise.

Being a lifestyle blogger involves taking pictures of everything you do. I don’t really do that for the blog. Its a good thing then that I like taking some pictures for memories sake and in the process they aid the blog.

Watching: More movies than usual. I’m amused. Mister encouraged me to watch The Chosen; it’s a series on Jesus Christ. I started just yesterday and it’s been engaging.

I’m also watching many sermons on YouTube.

I watched this video my mum sent me, a lovely evangelistic video on the platform of corona virus. It suits me to spread this kind of news on the corona virus.

Man infected with Covid-19 was dying then God sent a hospital cleaner.

What have you been listening to this period? What have you been watching? Its so beautiful that there’s plenty of time to break God’s word together now. I’ve been drawn to and I love some of the teachings by Pastor Sola Osunmakinde of Household of David church on YouTube recently.

Do you know that the believers meeting in the first century was a daily meeting – the constancy of it is a biblical pattern, a huge recipe for Christian growth. Key in to teachings and fellowship. Many other christian platforms have daily bible study plans. No excuses.

Its been said that if at this period, you do not do the things you always wanted to do, lack of time isn’t your problem, indiscipline is. No pressures, do it gradually. Add something of benefit daily. Pray for thirty minutes. Listen to one sermon daily. Share with one friend in a week. Grow and enjoy.

Tell me, how have you been?

With much love and dedication,

Debby

Debby is in Love

This has one simple message.

The message is that I’m in love. With a man. Man, as in male specie. No, its not my father either.

I.AM.IN.LOVE

This is one experience that beats my writing techniques. How to write a story around my relationship has been eluding me so I’m here to simply type it out.

Debby Adebayo of DebbyHub is in love with a man. Debby Adebayo of Debbyhub is in a romantic relationship.

In conclusion,

1. Ask no questions.

2. God bless you all and happy new month.

As always,

Love and light,

Debby.